Expectations: I believe we all have them, but we rarely explore why we have them, or what they are...
So peep. Recently, I’ve been overhearing myself complain about my expectations. They’re not being met, etc. I’m big mad, and I want everyone to know it. In these moments, my frustration levels are at their peak. Maybe you’ve been there.
Anyways, let’s unpack “expectations” and start thinking about how to manage them.
Unpack Expectations
If you find yourself upset that your expectations aren’t being met, take 5 min and ask yourself some quick questions:
What do I expect, specifically?
Where did this expectation come from?
Is the other entity (where applicable) aware of my expectations? How do I know this?
Is this a reasonable expectation? Why or why not?
Often, we allow our assumptions to inform our expectations. This is dangerous. We think something is certain to happen or should happen, without any proof. If we’re honest, it’s the reality for many of us- I’m not exempt!
Manage Expectations
We can seek to prevent disappointment by establishing in advance what can realistically be achieved or delivered... Basically: managing expectations can prevent disappointment.
If you have a reasonable expectation, write it down. Communicate it.
Ask for what you need, directly
Assess- can or will this person or entity commit to fulfilling my expectation? What have the agreed to? What has history shown?